I hadn’t heard my first country song until 2004 when I moved into a house with 4 cowgirls, one being my boss.
Lived on an island for 4 years, yet I do not know how to swim
Xingtea Green Tea with Honey is my favorite drink…I’m drinking one right now
The first country artist/band I saw in concert was Montgomery Gentry when they opened up for ZZ Top at Greeley Stampede back in 2005.
I haven’t spent 1 penny on anything related to the Harry Potter franchise
Mango is my favorite fruit and I can eat it throughout the an entire day, which I have done.
I use to work as an overnight stocker at King Soopers (roughly 3 months) and was the first person trained on the self-checkout machines in the Gunbarrel, CO store.
I worked at Chuck E’ Cheese for 3 weeks for the sole purpose of being Chuckie once in my life.
I made a $50 dollar bet with a roommate once that I could beat them in chess in 5 moves. I won.
One night after work, I convinced the fellow patrons at Old Chicago in Fort Collins that my dad, who was present, was the guy the played Jerry Garcia in Half-Baked. They picked up our table’s bar tab. I was also 19 at the time.
Two simple words that, as adults, we don’t often say a loud to each other but every day each of us wants that. To be heard and listened to.
We desperately want someone to take the time to hear us. Really hear us. But too often, we are too caught up in talking about ourselves to listen to anyone else’s heart. We are in too much of a hurry to slow down and really listen. There is too much to do and too little time. If the conversation isn’t about us or things that are important to us, it’s easy to turn off or tune out.
We’ve all experienced being on either end of that scenario. So we all just go through life figuring that’s just the way it is. No one really wants to listen to who we are, or what we dream, our hopes, our fears. And we settle for small talk that is quick and unimportant but puts a loose band-aid on the ache of our hearts that so want to be heard.
I ordered a sandwich this afternoon and when the waiter came up to our table with our entire order, he decided to strike up a conversation about what we were all working on/researching on our laptops & phones. He soon figured out that we are from out-of-state and went about telling us places to see, little joints to check out. But it didn’t stop right there, he sold these places to us. He began telling us story after story about each place, sometimes these places had multiple stories. His smile was from ear to ear as he spoke about his memories. This in turn fascinated us and we began asking him questions about who he is/what he does and it was obvious to see that his day was made….
I will most likely never see either this man again. I hope that he felt heard and cared for in those minutes I was with them. But I’m thankful for what they reminded me of once again. The profound power of listening. The small sacrifice of our own time and our own voice has the potential to touch another soul. With those we know and love and with the strangers who may “randomly” come across our paths.
There are many things I am bad at & I am glad I found out. Trying is what matters… For instance, went on a date last year for the first time in my life and I totally messed that up. Probably will the next few times too.
Trying to live out each year with less regrets than the previous means having to take more risks. Finding that courage in yourself to get up, speak out, reach for whatever it may be. It’s the first month of the new year and you need to know what it is that is important to you. What would matter to you at the end of this year, month, week, day? What if you die.
How do you know someone is manipulating? When they lack remorse or regret.
What is the opposite of Regret? Acceptance & learning.
Not having regrets is synonymous with being open to growing & learning, allowing the tweak of pain to influence you.
No regrets means experimenting & pushing the boundaries of what’s possible.
Be authentic & accept that regrets are an important part of life. The regrets that are hardest to bear are lost opportunities, the unfinished business of the things you failed to risk is harder to live with than your mistakes. Look back over the year and consider the positive things you failed to say to those you love. Look back ever farther.
Now change that. Your future has arrived, are you ready to go?
1. An afternoon at China Dragon. A “new” employee mentions her daughter, Stephanie, was coming into the restaurant today. I was filling in as host that night as my brother had it off that day. This long blonde haired, blue-eyed beautiful girl came through the doors and came up to the counter with the biggest smile I had ever seen. I was struck speechless as she asked me if her mom was around…. I just pointed. I sat her down and went to get her mom, without saying a word. Her mom asks “Why didn’t you say anything you silly goof?” I told her we were going to play this off as if I was a mute. She would come into the restaurant every day and for 2 weeks I would not say a word. Everybody was in on it. She was soon hired on as a waitress and I finally spoke, asking her to hang out. Not a day went by for the following 3 years where we were not together.
2. Sneaking into my first R-Rated movie. End of Days @ the old MetroLux Theatre.
3. Convincing everyone at Old Chicago that my dad was the dude that played Jerry Garcia in Half-Baked and then getting our tab paid for by the customers.
4. Concert hopping down in Denver when I was 20 with my roommates/friends/co-workers/band-mates.
5. Getting bottle service for the first time after turning 21 at Purple Martini and having my first dance with some girl at the bar.
6. Being attacked by a rottweiler in the middle of a blizzard during recess in the 3rd grade.
Just a bunch of memories with my Colorado friends that have come around in talks recently…
1. 18 years old, recently moved to Boulder after HS graduation… 5 of us have been playing Halo all day and into the night when we started getting hungry. Someone says “A #2 with a coke would be perfect right now.” ….. We all look at each other, maybe 10 seconds later without saying a word, we hop into one of the guy’s cars and make our way to California to get some In-N-Out. After we ate, we turned around and headed home.
2. Had just recently moved into Lincoln Place in downtown Loveland, 4 years ago. A buddy (who may had very well been a roommate since he woke up every day on the couch) and I were playing Halo 3 when a friend down in Austin, TX asked “When are you guys going to come down and visit?!” … I turned to my buddy and asked “What are you doing the next 4 days?” .. “Nothing.” .. “We’re going to Austin.” … We left the next morning.
3. Sitting in the green room at Starlight in Fort Collins. (It is now called Hodi’s Half-Note). I was about to go on stage with my band that I had joined 3 weeks prior and had to learn all their songs on the bass guitar in that time frame. Never having ever played the guitar or performed in front of an audience, I was crazy nervous. Then I remembered why I agreed to do this as I saw the biggest smile on the lead singer’s face and remembered I was doing this for him so he could live out his dream of performing songs he had written in front of a crowd. I don’t remember looking up into the crowd until our last song where I then witnessed a mosh pit occurring and the lead singer’s family in tears of joy. Felt good.
4. When my boy took me under his wing after I had turned 21 and helped me get that shyness out of me. Going out every night, making friends, connections & enjoying 21 to the fullest. Being able to walk in through the back door, Goodfellas style through the kitchen, at Tailgate Tommy’s every Friday & Saturday was such a good feeling when the crowd inside see you come through those swinging doors and the line which always wrapped around the block wonder what’s up. Haha, ballin’
5. Waking up on a bed surrounded by stuffed animals. Obviously a young kids’ room when looking upon the ocean of toys on the floor. I slowly walked out into an empty house with all the doors being shut. Not knowing at all where I was, I just decided to chill on the couch hoping someone I knew would appear. About 4 hours later after having beers with 4 black guys I had never bet before and watching Dave Chappelle… my boy (from #4) comes out of one of the rooms and I feel relieved. He explained the situation after we left after watching a few more episodes of Chappelle.
One of my favorite monologues of all time is spoken by Charlie Chaplin’s character in the 1940 film, The Great Dictator. I urge you to watch the video below, as it is truly inspirational and I believe everyone needs to hear this.
I’m sorry, but I don’t want to be an emperor. That’s not my business. I don’t want to rule or conquer anyone. I should like to help everyone if possible; Jew, Gentile, black man, white. We all want to help one another. Human beings are like that. We want to live by each other’s happiness, not by each other’s misery. We don’t want to hate and despise one another. In this world there is room for everyone, and the good earth is rich and can provide for everyone. The way of life can be free and beautiful, but we have lost the way. Greed has poisoned men’s souls, has barricaded the world with hate, has goose-stepped us into misery and bloodshed. We have developed speed, but we have shut ourselves in. Machinery that gives abundance has left us in want. Our knowledge has made us cynical; our cleverness, hard and unkind. We think too much and feel too little. More than machinery, we need humanity. More than cleverness, we need kindness and gentleness. Without these qualities, life will be violent and all will be lost. The airplane and the radio have brought us closer together. The very nature of these inventions cries out for the goodness in men; cries out for universal brotherhood; for the unity of us all. Even now my voice is reaching millions throughout the world, millions of despairing men, women, and little children, victims of a system that makes men torture and imprison innocent people. To those who can hear me, I say, do not despair. The misery that is now upon us is but the passing of greed, the bitterness of men who fear the way of human progress. The hate of men will pass, and dictators die, and the power they took from the people will return to the people. And so long as men die, liberty will never perish. Soldiers! Don’t give yourselves to brutes, men who despise you, enslave you; who regiment your lives, tell you what to do, what to think and what to feel! Who drill you, diet you, treat you like cattle, use you as cannon fodder. Don’t give yourselves to these unnatural men – machine men with machine minds and machine hearts! You are not machines, you are not cattle, you are men! You have the love of humanity in your hearts! You don’t hate! Only the unloved hate; the unloved and the unnatural. Soldiers! Don’t fight for slavery! Fight for liberty! In the seventeenth chapter of St. Luke, it is written that the kingdom of God is within man, not one man nor a group of men, but in all men! In you! You, the people, have the power, the power to create machines, the power to create happiness! You, the people, have the power to make this life free and beautiful, to make this life a wonderful adventure. Then in the name of democracy, let us use that power. Let us all unite. Let us fight for a new world, a decent world that will give men a chance to work, that will give youth a future and old age a security. By the promise of these things, brutes have risen to power. But they lie! They do not fulfill that promise. They never will! Dictators free themselves but they enslave the people. Now let us fight to fulfill that promise. Let us fight to free the world! To do away with national barriers! To do away with greed, with hate and intolerance! Let us fight for a world of reason, a world where science and progress will lead to all men’s happiness. Soldiers, in the name of democracy, let us all unite!
Watching a movie that all of a sudden started to remind me of when I first saw this film and who I saw it with. Which in turn started a chain reaction of everybody in my life that were pulled away before their time. Missing them all and they will always be in my heart.